My grandmother was born 101 years ago, today.
She left us in 2001 at the ripe old age of 85.
She was a firecracker.
I don’t remember her as well as I should and I didn’t know her as well as I would have liked. I know she was warm and loving. She was always – except at the very end – so genuinely happy to see me and her smiling face remains a very clear memory that shows itself exactly when I need it. I know she will forever embody class, for me at least. I know that more than anyone else, she is the one I want to believe could be or might have been proud of me.
We were not particularly close but, to me, she has always seemed to be a perfectly imperfect woman who just got it. She knew what it meant to be a wife, mother, grandmother, friend, community leader, and a creative. She balanced the weight and expectation of it all with grace (and a rye and ginger on the rocks) and inspired the same in others. I know that better now than ever and I am awed anew.
For most of my life, she was the only person who had really encouraged me to try anything. At 12 years old, I believed her when she said I could be a writer…when she said I could be anything…and again a few years later when she gave me my grandfather’s old typewriter.
I wish my children could have known her. I wish she could have known them, encouraged and loved them the way she did me. I wish she could have met my love to know that I finally got it right and that I am in very good hands. They would have been fast friends.
I still think of her in a WWGD (What Would Grand-Maman Do) kind of way and I try to make the choices I think she might have made or supported. I have been thinking about her a lot today and I guess that makes sense. I don’t know if she had any dreams or expectations for me when she met me or as she watched me grow but I do hope that I haven’t let her down and that I am at least half of what she had hoped I would be…so far.
Happy birthday, Grand-Maman. You are loved.